Medical doctors: Transgender girls are girls and should be able to use the girl’s bathroom. Not doing so singles them out for discrimination and negatively impacts social development.
Bigots: We shouldn’t allow transgender girls to use the girls bathroom because OMG IT’S GOT A PENIS AND IT’S GONNA RAPE AND IT’S THE EXACT SAME THING AS PEDOPHILIA AND IT NEEDS SURGERY FIRST BECAUSE OTHERWISE, PENIS, AND BOYS WILL JUST SAY THEY’RE TRANS TO GET IN NOW CAUSE, I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TRANS HEALTH CARE WORKS.
I’m actually surprised a variety of commenters actually sit there and try to provide valid responses to the stupidity, and actually get more upvotes than the bigots.
Really wish people would realize that there is a HELL OF A LOT MORE to transitioning genders than claiming to be a woman and wearing a dress – ignorant people *REALLY* don’t get it that after therapy visits, doctor visits, months of hormone therapy (which kill all testosterone and jack your emotions into overdrive), put up with all the bullying and name calling – yeah, if any boy want’s to do that just to “peep” in on the girl’s room, you’re pretty f*ing determined. Good luck getting your male body put back together after all the hormones, dick face.
Oh wait, but that’s actually coming from somebody who is trans and actually knows what she’s talking about… =/
A few other notes:
Medical doctors agree that gender identity is internalized – meaning that it’s something that is between the ears, not the legs.
Both medical doctors and mental health care professionals agree that treating gender dysphoria with proper hormonal therapy helps alleviate symptoms and leads to healthier patient outcomes (gee imagine that).
Mental health professions have clearly demonstrated that transgender people who are supported by friends and family commonly have increased self-esteem, happiness, etc. and just general mental well being than transgender people who are not supported by friends and family commonly have depression, low self-esteem, low levels of happiness, etc., not to mention the suicide rates of transgender people are astronomically some of the highest in any minority in the country outright.
Bigots use the pedophilia argument only because they see gender dysphoria as a sexual fetish/dysfunction/deviancy due to the negative image in which transgender people are displayed in media (two common stereotypes: “deceptive tranny” and “pathetic tranny”), sexualized and objectified in the pornography industry (which provides a lot of people with their only exposure to transsexualism), as well as a lack of understanding in the diversity of the transgender umbrella (cross dressers != drag queens != transsexuals), specifically how fetishizing cross dressers (men who do sexualize everything about it and get off playing dress up (side note: not all CDs sexualize and objectify the experience – I have friends who just love CD’ing for the fun of it (and some are really good at it))) have made transsexual women look just as deviant (when it is, in fact, completely different).
Ignorance is the prime issue here, along mixed with a fragile sexuality. One of the things the transgender spectrum has taught me, in particular, is how both gender and sexuality is not a binary, but a spectrum. People with fragile sexualities (e.g. straight guys who are deathly afraid of being called ‘faggots’ for displaying any sort of gay behavior in any way whatsoever, gay girls who are deathly afraid of being called ‘breeders’ for displaying any sort of straight behavior in any way whatsoever) tend to want to avoid a world that isn’t black and white, because they find simplistic protection in that black and white world (e.g. just as long as I ain’t , I won’t be hurt) – not to mention ignorance breeds in over simplification. In particular, transsexual women pose a threat to straight male’s sexuality as well as gay female’s sexuality because it dilutes the black and white lines between 100% male (which doesn’t exist) and 100% female (which doesn’t exist) and potentially opens them up to such fears of harassment and degradation. Part of the TQ in the LGBTQ movement centers in trying to get people to understand that biology is SUPER COMPLEX, unexpected at times, yet quite malleable, we all sit on different parts of the spectrum of gender and sexuality, and it’s of no point to be so narrow minded about it all when none of us are truly black and white (hence why some people in the LGBTQ spectrum have coined the term ‘queer’ to describe their sexuality – they don’t want to be marginalized because they don’t fit some predetermined ‘norm’ of only liking guys or only liking girls (IME, some super hardcore lesbians in particular seem to me to be, at times, quite hostile in this regard – you either fly right or get ostracized out of the lesbian community entirely (see also: why many lesbians don’t date bi girls))). True fact: we all have a bit of ‘faggot’/'breeder’ in us.
Plus a lot of society is mired in anti-intellectualism. Learning and understanding things is just *TOO DAMN HARD* for a lot of people.
Typically (but of course there is a WIDE diversity here), a lot of trans people I’ve interacted with tend to prefer to be on hormones therapy for months (6 months to a year+ I’ve noticed is typical) before going “full time.” This means that they give ample time for the hormones to affect their secondary sexual characteristics before actually even attempting to present as their new found gender identity – to make it easier on people. It’s not like we really do have boys saying they’re trans and then pepping in on the girl’s locker room, because that’s not how a lot of trans people I’ve been around tend to operate – many prefer to be “accepted” as their gender in due time on hormones, not stick out like a sore thumb on day 1 (although I know some who have done that – most later lamented to regret that decision immensely).
In all my time going to women’s bathrooms, the prime thing that I worry about is, in fact, disturbing the other women. My philosophy I’ve come down to is that cis women’s urethras are larger in diameter to trans women’s, thus have a distinctly different sound when their stream or urine hits the water in the toilet bowl than that of trans women. I actually get kinda paralyzed in those quiet bathroom situations (some cis women have no fear and just let it rip, I assure you) and prefer to wait until they leave so that I don’t make them uncomfortable just in case if my stream sounds to them to be “off.”